FAQ: (more) Potential Goals Day Problems

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Ok, settle down, settle down – last week I suggested setting aside time in your diary (you do have a diary, don’t you?) to work on the Goals you identified a few weeks back. From experience I already know that there are probably 50% of you out there who are sitting, arms folded tightly across your chest, scowling at me. Of all the concepts discussed in How To Do Everything And Be Happy goal setting is the one that people wrestle with most. So, allow me to try and address as many of those common goal-related problems as possible.

Words and terminology

“Goals”, “wishes”, “failure” – some people have a real problem with these words:

“Goals” sounds too corporate, too managerial, too board-room, too annoying, too school teacher-ish…

“Wishes” sounds too flaky, too holy, too hippy, too girly…

And let’s not get started on “failure”! We already know how that brings some people out in hives!

If you’re struggling with these, or any other words, then change them. Pick something else. You have my permission to go through your copy of How To Do Everything And Be Happy changing the word “goal” to “target” – or “wishes” to “wants,” whatever works for you. The important thing is not the word, but the concept behind it. If you can’t hear “failure” without wanting to scratch, then change it – how about “Personal Target Re-assessment Opportunity”?!

If you think of any good word alternatives feel free to send them to me and I’ll list them on the website for other word-challenged readers – but please, don’t let a word stop you from getting the most out of goal setting or this book.

Too American

It’s important to realise that I am British. True – I don’t live in a castle, I don’t have a butler, I don’t particularly like battered fish wrapped in newspaper, I’m not a huge fan of roast beef, I can’t stand ‘soccer’, but other than that, most of the stereotypes are probably accurate.

I have worked for numerous American companies over the past fifteen years and some of their culture may have rubbed off on me – some. But I’ve never skipped my lunch, worked late into the night, high-fived my colleagues, or winked at them whilst saying, “Good job!”

That said, our ‘cousins’ across the pond are, as a nation, just a whole lot better at ‘self-improvement’ than we Brits. And for decades American authors have taken ideas that work, re-branded them, and presented them to the book-buying public as ground-breaking and new. So if you’ve ever read, watched or heard anything on ‘goal setting’ or ‘the Law of Attraction’ it’s possible that the ideas presented in this book are going to feel – well, ‘American’.

So here’s a suggestion: join me. Join my little crusade to reclaim these sensible, practical, powerful ideas and re-present them, without the fluff, without the mystique, and with a distinctly European flavour.

Too rigid!

One of the problems with writing a book like this – one that’s based heavily upon personal experience – is that all the ideas and suggestions will work perfectly, if you happen to be me.

Of course, you’re not me. So when it comes to goal setting (or indeed anything else in this book), for goodness sake use your head. If setting yearly goals doesn’t work for you, set them at other times! One of my friends sets them as and when her life dictates.

If three goals is too many, try two. Or one. If you have enough bandwidth to cope with more than three try four, or five.

And though I’ve said it already I’ll say it again – if I come across like a school teacher, then I sincerely apologise. I’m just passionate about this stuff. And the more I see it working for people, the more passionate I become.

Not Enough Time

Every now and again I get an email, or come across a review, where someone says that whilst they might have enjoyed the book, there’s just no way that they could find the time to have a Boxing Days, a Now List Day and a Goals Days, once a month! These people are convinced that to make How To Do Everything and Be happy work, you’ve to somehow conjure up 36 days out of thin air, each year. If you’re one of them, pop back in time to July 2012 when I dealt with that particular issue.

Any Other Questions?

If you have any Goal Related Questions, pop them in the comments box below or drop me a line

Pop back this time next week for more GOAL related goodness.

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How to achieve your GOALS (what other self-help books fail to tell you)

slide 8 - walletMany, many self-help books bang on about the importance of identifying and setting Goals… but rather surprisingly, very few seem to tell you what to do next. The authors seem to assume that the
average person, caught up in all the excitement of determining how they’d like their life to be, will crack right on with turning those goals into reality. In my experience that’s not what happens.

Most people will take those goals, stuff them in a drawer (real, virtual or symbolic) and never look at them again.

Which is why I spend quite a lot of time in How To Do Everything And Be Happy helping the reader put systems in place to make sure that some goal related activity takes place.

One of these systems is GOALS Day – a day, perhaps once or twice a month – when you will work on one of your three goals.

But what happens if your GOAL is quite ambitious? What if your plans for world domination might require more than 24 days this year? Funny. That’s pretty much what reader Shiva was wondering a while back. Here’s a copy of the message he sent me recently via facebook.

Greetings Peter – I have a question on the Goal Day. One of my goals (to be fluent in German by Dec. 2015) requires much more time than 1 or 2 days per month. Can a Goal Day be, say for instance, 15 hours spread over a week? Or does it really need to be taking place on regular slots?

Thank you for your support, Shiva

Hi Shiva! What a great question, and I think I know exactly what you mean.

Over the past couple of years I’ve had a number of goals to finish the various books I’ve written – but if I’d only worked on those books on a GOALS day I wouldn’t have gotten very far. Instead I scheduled in WRITING days, and then used my monthly GOALS day(s) as a bonus to work on whichever of my three goals seemed to be the most neglected.

But the real answer to your question is ‘it’s up to you’. You might want to do as I did. Or you might want to use your GOALS day as more of a planning day to coordinate your goal related activity. Or you might want to schedule in more GOALS days (say one a week) if that’s possible. Whatever makes sense for you.

The real point is to make time to work on making your goals a reality.

Pop back this time next week for more GOAL related tips and hints

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